Procrastination is FUN!

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You’ve got that list of tasks.

They are sitting there staring at you, the endless To Do’s and you are simply NOT doing them.  And these tasks matter.  They will actually connect you with your audience, bring you wealth, and feed your Creative Life.

So, why are you going through Facebook or doing anything EXCEPT working on your Creative Project?

The answer is pretty simple.

And the antidote is even easier.

Turns out there are only three easy steps to turn any procrastination into absolute action and to set you up with a roaring and raving crowd cheering on your every move!

And the best part?  All of this is FUN.

CLICK ON THE VIDEO to find your cheering fans:

Now I want to hear from you!  How can you apply this to your Creative tasks?

What does having the “home advantage” do for your motivation?

When I viewed my To Do’s from this place, I couldn’t WAIT to fly through them.  It was a real game changer.

Respond in the comment section below!

Photography by Caitlin Cannon

The Naming

Marriage Mirror

Looking down in my hand, there on the paper in bold capital black ink, those four letters.

They are not love.
They are not hate.

Something far more complex, and though I spent months and hours trying to erase these four letters from my sight and world, here they arise again.

I faxed documents, I made phone calls, I wrote emails and formal letters, stood in official lines to do one thing:

Change my name.

And somehow the mail still appears, as a ghost of my former self, saying hello, before I chuck it amongst the plastic bottles in the recycling bin under my kitchen sink.

 

I remember getting married. It was one of the most joyous days of my life, a hot summer day in the Pennsylvania May sunshine. I laughed, I cried tears of joy, and I danced into the dark hours with my friends and family, embracing the moon above, and grabbing my ivory tulle with gusto and glee.

I couldn’t wait to take his last name, as it rolled off my tongue in one sexy single syllable, and caused me to throw my head back with abandon and howl to the stars above.

My maiden name was flung to the depths with absolute intention to never surface again. That name was my childhood, and didn’t have the ring of “cool” my new name did. This name would bring me happiness, fame, fortune, success, all I desired.

I don’t have memories of resistance or difficulty with the legal process of changing to my married name. Whatever occurred, the feeling remains of ease and quickness.

I was ready.

 

Years later, I looked at the moon through bloodshot eyes, my head throwing back in pain and anguish. There was no celebration now, just deep seated anger and betrayal. The howl came as I clutched my side with one hand and the golden frame of our first dance on our wedding day in the other.

I wanted to get rid of the name with my whole being. I even adopted my middle name for a while as I waited for the divorce to be legal.

Once the decree was in my hand, I started the whole process of returning to my maiden name. I pulled it out of the depths and placed it back where it had lived, a long time ago.

The absence was 15 years, and it was dusty.

Moreover, it was unfamiliar. I knew this name as a teenager, a young 20 something skipping down the aisle, not a mature woman embracing solitude and silence.

It wasn’t easy, and it was drawn out. I started carrying my divorce decree around in my bag because I never knew when someone needed the proof.

Unlike before, I wasn’t ready.

As time passed, I breathed great sighs of relief to see my magazines reflect the change, and new membership cards arriving in the mail with my maiden name.  I got a new passport and drivers license, and the woman looking out at me was clear and smiling.  The fog was lifting from my eyes and my right hand drew in arcing lines my name across checks and documents. As I created new profiles and accounts, I felt the energy shifting.

 

Recently I was out for brunch with a teacher who is very close to me, and she introduced me to her colleagues by my old married name.  It threw me for a loop as she had never done that before, but my reaction was quick, anger flashing across my face, staring at her in disbelief.  She apologized and the anger passed, both of us making a joke about the mishap.

After leaving the restaurant, my teacher turned to me, saying,
“You got really angry in there.  I think you should look at that.”

My first retort was,
“I’m not angry now.”

But she was right.  It had been a long time since someone had attached that name to me, and my reaction was honest.  Where was the anger coming from?

What was I protecting?

After we said our goodbyes, I checked in, and found myself holding that piece of mail again, those four letters staring at me.  How I wanted so desperately to fully disown them, but what exactly was I disowning in the process?

Those 15 years with my married name brought me to where I am standing today.  There are parts that I want to forget forever from pain and shame, but they did exist, and actually brought me my largest lessons.

That married woman had glorious moments alongside her darkened lows. She loved deeply, fiercely, and fully. She was a lioness, who roared in defiance, and purred softly in the walls of her lair. Her teeth were sharp, her fur textured and thick, and her paws were solid and strong.  But a cage appeared in her mind, and she wore a path between the bars, walking back and forth, over and over, unable to see past the metal poles.  She grew exhausted and her fur matted around her sides and belly, losing its luster.  She paced until she could pace no more and when she was forced outside the gates, she could barely stand to walk in the open wild.

In leaving the wife behind, I was shedding layers of control, blindness, the sharp teeth and deafening roar, and coming back to the name I was born with as a complete beginner.  This was the time to love it all, releasing anger into gratitude for the journey.  The cage may have been self inflicted, but I was no longer pacing that path.

 

Two days later I found myself reaching for paper to write two letters.  Each would be written in 10 minutes, my timer counting down beside me as my pen scrawled across the white.

The first would be a letter of Hate.
The second would be a letter of Love.

Hate began with a vengeance, pouring out of me in capital letters and repeated curses as the wound re-opened, and my chest tightened.  When I flipped the paper to write on the back, my pen began to slow and I found the steam emptying from my ink.  I didn’t want to do this anymore.

Ten minutes up, and I reached for the second paper.  Now my writing eased into rounded shapes and letters.  There was space now, and something else, a genuine wish of goodbye.

I took both papers outside in the snow and placed them in a deep soup pot, setting them on fire as I stood above.  The flames danced along the silver edges of the pot, and soon all that remained was grey ash in a soft pile.  I went to go throw them out in the garbage can by my house, but as I climbed the steps to the street, the wind took the contents and scattered them, swirling towards me, and then away.  I tried to dump what was left into the trash, but the ash rose up, not a single piece falling down into the plastic black bag.

Now my old name appeared in reverse, the four letters forming a new word, one more in line with the fiery wings sprouting from my shoulders, where once thickened fur grew.

Flow

Phoenix Red