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Wait, there has to be a mistake….I didn’t hear my name called.

I stood catching my breath, after just nailing the dance combination and singing my heart out at the callbacks for the National Broadway Tour of A Chorus Line.

And this wasn’t the first time I had been in.  I had been called back for the Broadway production, and was invited in by casting for the Tour.

I had done everything the same.  I sang the same song, I knew the choreography forwards and backwards.  I wore the same outfit, and I had nailed the infamously hard pirouette sequence.

So, why was I cut?

I just gave the performance of my life.
Was it not enough?

As I watched other friends and peers stay for the next round, I found myself blinking back tears, lowering my eyes as they started to sting.

I didn’t want to be seen like this.

As quickly as I could, I made my way to the dressing room, and changed out of my sweaty leotard and tights, and around me other dancers who were cut were voicing their disbelief and denial,

Why did I even come today?
I totally messed up the dance!
They weren’t even looking at me.
The show must already be cast.
Well, back to the day job.

And as I stuffed my leotard and feelings into my backpack, so many emotions rose in my throat, choking me off.  I was both angry and deeply confused.

I had thought for sure after being in callbacks for Broadway, I would book the Tour.

I was wrong, and I never did the show, and casting actually never called me back in.  I went from being seriously considered to no longer considered.

Just like that.

 

It’s Maddening, isn’t it?

You spend hours, days, weeks, years on your Creative Process and building your craft.  You put your heart and soul into your work and then you stand up, put it out there for your audience, and say,

HERE I AM!

You are giving your all, full of energy, hands open, eyes open, just waiting for approval, waiting for validation.

And what do you hear?

Next!
Nope!

Or even worse….crickets.

It feels completely unfair, doesn’t it?
It feels completely unbalanced.

You are giving so much.  Why isn’t it being returned?

 

Integrative Therapist and Coach Tom Tynan breaks down the world into two types:

The Givers and the Takers.

It’s pretty much exactly as you would imagine, the Givers always give first in order to receive, and the Takers take first in order to give.

So, what commonly happens?

Well, the Givers become exhausted.  They go through endless roller coasters of feeling good when they give, and then burning out when they are not recharged.  Basically, they give until they are empty.

Sound familiar?
What category would you put yourself in?

How many times have you given endlessly with your Creative work and saw no return?
Do you then feel motivated to try again?

So, what’s the answer in this cycle, since as Creatives, we so desperately want to give?

What do we do in that moment of crying out,
PICK ME PICK ME!

We need to learn how to RECEIVE.

I recently asked a writer in my tribe what it means to “Receive as an Artist”, and he couldn’t answer.

Bingo.

I know I never had an acting, dance or singing teacher give me tools or any teaching around receiving. In truth, it was a completely foreign word in my performance career. I kept viewing it all through what I had to give.

And even more so, we need to reverse the process so we don’t burn out as Artists, which means we need to Receive FIRST, and then GIVE.

So, what does this mean for you and your process?

There are two elements here to consider,

1) Having the quiet space before we go into action and into our work to actually receive our creative inspiration
2) Being able to receive what we are actually given by our audience, whether they are people hiring us or taking in our art.  Our audience is directly tied to our livelihood as Artists.

For that former dancer who was so heartbroken and frustrated at the Chorus Line callback, I didn’t have any kind of daily practice to recharge. I was pretty much operating on two extremes,

On and Off
Highs and Lows

Now I start my day with meditation, have a daily gratitude practice, and go to yoga weekly. I now have a way to open to receive BEFORE the action, to calm my monkey mind, a place of quiet.

And this may be different for you, but ask yourself, how do you recharge? And I don’t mean, distract. I’m not talking about binge watching Netflix or disappearing into social media for hours. This isn’t about escape, but about nourishing your Creative Being.

The powerful question is, how do you fill your Creative cup back up so you feel inspired?

Because the magic is, when we are able to recharge and fill our own cup, then we have the capacity to receive the rejection or being cut or experience the disappointment and use it as information.

Information instead of judgement.
Evidence to continue, instead of give up.

For whatever reason, the creative team behind A Chorus Line decided I wasn’t right for their show, and if I had these tools at that time, I could have taken a step back and known this was not a reflection on my ability.

But it was a reflection that I was burned out. And it was information to move on to the next opportunity and the next creative team who would value my talent.

We can so commonly get caught in the belief that we are not enough, that our work is not enough, but for all you givers out there, I have a gift instead:

Receive first, and then Give with your Creativity.

And ask yourself the simple question,
How AM I enough as an Artist?

Next time you find yourself caught in the frustration and feeling like no one cares,  make a list of how you are enough.  When you phrase the question this way, it can only be positive.

Because it’s from that place of knowing what you actually bring to the table, that your greatest work will occur.

Inspiration: Your Most Important Creative Tool!

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Most Creatives, even those who diligently focus their attention on marketing and selling their
talent are missing the most important tool that is present in every successful creative endeavor.

That tool is Inspiration.

When you are inspired you are open and ready to receive. Ideas and creativity flow and issues are easily solved. New plans are able to be followed with enthusiasm and you move forward in your life with the greatest of ease.

Is this your experience?

For most Creative people it is not. While almost every Creative I’ve met got into the business because they love their craft, many report that somewhere in the process of being in “the business “ they lost the spark.

Have you?

After 30 +years counseling Creatives I can report with great confidence that when Talent has activated their intuitive senses and has 24/7 access to inspiration they benefit creatively, professionally, financially and personally.

This translates into :
 * Frequently and painlessly creating new ways of expressing your creativity
 * Successfully collaborating creatively with clients and partners on creative projects
 * Happily and easily marketing and consistently putting your work forward
 * Painlessly solving issues with grace and ease
 * Pricing and negotiating fees that serve all

Most creative people currently experience “moments” of inspiration.  They have times while shooting,acting dancing writing when they are” in the zone”, a place where time stops still and they feel supremely present.

These moments while wonderful, are only the tip of the iceberg, as they happened randomly, not through active choice and effort.

When you choose to live an inspired life you are connected to higher source energy. This is the frequency that you’ve been visiting during your moments in the zone, or times of connection during an artistic moment where flashes of brilliance occur.

This energy field can be brought into all aspects of your life.  This is tool that everyone has, yet few are accessing!

Energy? Frequency? I’m not talking religion here. Science and medicine long ago confirmed that we are energetic beings.

When you have an An EEG it measures the frequency in your brain. An EKG measures the energy in your heart.

Clearly we are energetic beings!

When you live an inspired life, you are choosing to consciously and deliberately open to and
activate the high-frequency energy field that until now you have only been visiting.  Choosing to live in the higher vibration of inspiration gives you access beyond your thoughts.

Make on mistake about it. Creativity is not an act of the brain, (neuro science has reported that
the brain can only recognize that which it already knows and ideas are  “new discoveries”).
Creativity  is a result of you opening and providing a receptive place for ideas to land.

This is not rocket science but it’s not easy work. You will need to get past old beliefs and then you will have to create new steps in order to leave habits and patterns that no longer serve behind.

You will need to create quiet in your life, times when you will be able to connect to your higher wisdom.  For many creative people choosing to go here outside of the creative experience itself, is very new.

To get you started  I’m inviting you to access as my gift, a guided meditation that will take you to a place where inspiration lives. Go here and download your gift now.

Golden Light Meditation

If you have any doubt at all that Inspiration, your most powerful tool is within you, waiting to be  accessed,  think about the term itself.

The words In Spirit A Ton reside within!

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/ Selina Maitreya is an internationally celebrated lecturer, author and teacher of Practical Spirituality.
Practical Spirituality is a transformational
teaching that utilizes one’s daly life as the practice pad for increased consciousness and connection to higher wisdom.
Students of Practical Spirituality learn how to identify and access their high frequency 24/7 living lives that are based in true abundance and peace.

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