Time Well Spent

Do you feel like you are doing everything you can for your career and just feeling stuck?

Are you looking at your vision and saying,
Can I just BE there already?

It can be so frustrating when you WANT something so badly, and feel like it’s so far away.

Looking at the clock, I imagine you may want to just speed up time so  you don’t have to go through all the struggle and HUSTLE to be Full Time.

There has to be an easier way, right?

I feel you.  So many times I would leave another busted callback, and just feel defeated and so frustrated.  I knew I was doing everything I could, and yet, it was just taking WAY longer than I wanted and felt hard.

I longed for ease with my art.
And most of all, I longed for progress.

Can you relate?
How are you feeling about time right now?

This weekend I am celebrating my one year wedding anniversary.

I have a smile a mile wide as I am typing this, and my heart feels like it’s beating out of my chest with love.  I have truly found the most incredible man, and I am the happiest I have ever been being married to him.  He has taught me love at a level I always wanted.

Standing in front of my family, friends, and spiritual community was a huge moment for me.

One I waited a long time for.

I remember going on my first date of my life at 38, and feeling so awkward.  The guy was very nice, and for a moment I thought,
Could it be that easy?

And then he ghosted me, and I realized I had a LOT more to learn not only about dating, but about myself.

I was super clear I was not going to turn around and just marry version #2 of my ex.  This was about calling in an entirely different man, and that meant I needed to understand what that was and my part in it.

And of course, I originally thought this process wouldn’t take that long!
I thought that just because I wanted it so badly, meant it would come quickly.

Hard work = success!
Does this sound familiar?

I mean, I’m very disciplined, and very motivated, and yet…..I had SO much to learn. I had never dated before in my life and had met my ex at 18 and gotten married at 22.

I was not very experienced.
What I did know what working hard, but I didn’t know men and dating.

My first love coach said something that was really helpful, which was to start cultivating what it would feel like to receive my man.

And I realized for me, that would mean I would feel relaxed.

My go-to in the past had been to over-give, try to control, and have TONS of energy going out to the relationship.  This left me absolutely exhausted, but since it was all I knew, I thought this was just what a successful marriage was.

Until it fell apart, and I actually started to ask some deeper questions around relationship and around what love is.

And I started to cultivate relaxation in my body.  This was a game changer because when I would go on dates, if I didn’t feel relaxed, I knew I was falling into old patterns.

Patterns that exhausted me. And to be honest, the guys ended up ghosting, or being weird, or not wanting to commit.

They were not available, and I was overcompensating for that.

I was learning.
I was gaining experience.

And time ticked on.  I would go through phases of absolute panic as I entered my 40’s and watched each birthday go by.

But I stayed in it.
I remembered WHY I was doing this.
WHY I was going on all these dates.

And trust me, I wasn’t doing this alone.  I was asking for help from coaches and teachers the whole time, because I had no idea what I was doing.

This was new!
I had never found a conscious high level man before and married him!

And then, one May day, I went on my last first date with Chuck Rogers.  By this time, after four and a half years of practice and learning, something radical happened.

I was relaxed.

For the first time ever.

I was different.
He was different, and we had both waited a LONG time to experience and find each other.

Thank goodness, because I realized in that moment, the time had been well spent.

We can easily get caught up in thinking our careers are a failure because we aren’t where we want to be.

But, what if you’re exactly where you need to be?
What if there is a more powerful question to be asking right now?

Relying on hard work will only get you so far, and in most cases can create a perfectionist mentality which just keeps you stuck.

But, what if this is a time of learning for you?

Stepping into a student mind opens you.
It allows for growth and possibility, instead of just believing if you don’t know you are stupid, or failing.

Feel the difference in your body.
One is expansive and the other is very constricting.

Growth happens in the energy of expansion.

In a world where there is so much going on, we can often get to the end of a day and feel like we have NO time or perhaps time is using us.

What if you could use time well?
What if this time is here FOR you?
To point you towards what needs help?

Trust me, I wanted to meet my man SO much earlier than I did, and yet all the exploration and learning I did leading up to meeting him was what allowed it to go so smoothly.  We were magnets for each other at that point because we were both so clear and open.

Your career, your success, and your dreams are no different.

Your vision matters, and it takes many elements to go Full Time in today’s world.  It’s not a quick fix. It’s not about a perfect FB ad or having one hit song. 

Full Time is a full picture of stepping into your best self, and if you are not where you want to be, instead of beating yourself up, come into curiosity.

Ask for help.
We get there together.

You’ve never been Full Time and successful.  Much like me, you don’t have the experience of what that is, because it’s NEW.

So, come into the student mind, find coaches who get you and who can help, and create a team that nurtures and promotes your work.

Learning is power.
And you have so much inside to unlock.

Use your time well.

Photography: DAG Photography

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